Friends with benefits

Friends are there for better or worse, but some are the best for getting over bedroom woes. I know we've all had that friend who does us a favor when the urge builds up. Don't deny it because it's true, I confess that I've had mine.

A friend with benefits is not a bad thing, gentlemen! With him, you not only satisfy your pleasures, but you can also enjoy a good conversation without the mask of hypocrisy; because you both know each other and know that it's all about sex.

Veronica certainly had her friend! They were both clear. There were no complaints, calls were a clear indication that it was a night for sex. After a good bout of sweat and fluids, they would share a few good glasses of wine, and best of all, the guy in question was as good in bed as he was in the kitchen; he nourished her Venus and her body.

What all women (and men) must be clear about is that having these benefits also implies following certain "rules." 

It's hard not to get feelings involved, especially for women. But to avoid bad times, we must keep in mind that when it comes to bedroom acrobatics, there should be no scenes of absence complaints, or gripes about why he didn't text you when you woke up or went to bed. Don't introduce him as your "boyfriend," don't even think about taking him to family gatherings, and don't become the queen of drama: because your life, work, and/or family are miserable. Ladies, the point is to have fun and forget your routines for a few hours! There's also no jealousy or exclusivity.

The problem with all of us is that we think that, because we're sleeping with each other, we have the right to govern and dispose of the space and time of the individuals involved.

Carolina had been dating Javier for 4 months. They would go to the movies, go out to eat, it wasn't so carnal even though after their respective outing the round would end in bed. That said, zero social commitment. But one day, she was showering and he complained about why she was being sent such "affectionate" messages so late at night. After an intense discussion, they stopped seeing each other.

During our respective girls' night out, Carolina, after a shot of tequila, exclaimed:   "My God, I'm a woman and I don't complain, and this guy comes along acting like my husband? I was having a good time, satisfying my urges, but he got intense."

But not everything ends badly. Daniela had a serious relationship with her friend with benefits. After all, they got along well in bed, had common friends, liked the same things, and after enjoying a few clandestine months, they decided to formalize the relationship and it lasted a year and a half.

My friend with benefits was more fleeting. We had liked each other for a long time, but we hadn't had the opportunity to go out. We had common careers and both of us had just ended a long relationship. 

In bed, it wasn't bad at all, but I confess that after several outings doing the same thing: eating, drinking, and going to a hotel; I got bored. I felt empty. That said, I had fun, I satisfied my urges, and if the body asks, you have to give it. I followed the rules, zero calls, I didn't take him to my special gatherings, I wasn't jealous, but I did maintain exclusivity because I only went out with him in secret. 

I later confessed to him how I felt and therefore wanted to stop our encounters. He didn't understand. He insisted on continuing the way we were. At one point, he implied that I had used him. Was that really the case? I don't know, I just lived in the moment. It turns out that when women behave like men and are only carnal, they get upset. I think I gave him a taste of his own medicine... And there he remained as my friend.

Sex without commitment is abundant in this city because no one wants to commit. 

For those who don't have anyone to do them a favor (which I doubt, because men are always willing), you can opt for hand companions (you know what I mean) or, if not, buy your "Antonio" which you can get at "Sex Shops" or online. 

If you don't have a toy, ask me and I'll recommend where I buy them and give you a discount code! ...However, it's better to have a consistent and obedient guy, hehe...

In short, enjoy your "friend with benefits" and remember to follow the rules so as not to break hearts.

Big, Tight Kisses